Relationship is an area where you most probably struggle with. But if handled properly, relationship can literally be the greatest experience and joy you can have.
A relationship could be a lot easier if you were perfect, because you would never have to go through the difficulties and struggles that goes with it. But when trials come, when you are overwhelmed by hurt and frustrations, and when you reach the point that you just don’t care anymore, what are you going to do?
When everything around you is falling apart, how do you make your relationship work?
1. Accept your differences.
You came into a relationship as two different individuals. You think and act differently. You work and shop and cook differently. But you chose to bind together not to frustrate each other (although it seems like that sometimes), but to complement each other.
You will have different ways of saying sorry and of showing care; you will have different means of giving and receiving gifts; you will have different ways to utter words of affirmation — because the language of love comes in many different forms, and that’s okay. Your love should package the willingness to accept your differences, because that matters a lot in a relationship.
2. Don’t give up.
Love always makes allowances (not excuses). But that does not mean that it’s okay to stay in whatever has messed you up. It only means that it is okay to take the time necessary for your relationship to work.
But for your love and relationship to work, you need to understand that both of you are not perfect and that you are going to be disappointed somehow along the course of your relationship. Therefore, it is important to find strength to not give up and to endure through every circumstance.
3. Trust your love.
Your relationship is going to survive if you choose to love and not leave it up to your negative and unnecessary feelings — anger, doubts, jealousy. Because your feelings are sometimes deceptive, they can be manipulated and can often lie to you.
A loving relationship should not be as simple as something you fall in and out of. You shouldn’t enter into a relationship like in that old children’s song, “You put your right foot in, you take your right foot out, you put your right foot in and you shake it all about.” Because if that is your case, you will always end up so shaken when it doesn’t work out.
Process your feelings, but ALWAYS trust your love. That’s the only way you can stay in love.
4. Ask for Divine guidance.
If you believe that you’re relationship is an answered prayer, then it is best to take His expert advice when you feel like love is failing you.
You don’t have to struggle alone. You can always go to Him for wisdom. It begins with a prayer, and then taking the time to listen to what God is saying. He speaks through your christian friends and spiritual counselors. Listen to them and take their guide.
“Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.”Proverbs 11:14
5. Be the good example.
There will be times when you won’t get to understand each other or may not favor some decisions and actions taken.
Be the bigger person in your relationship. Be the example that your partner needs to see. Be the support and the strength, when the other gets weak. And that, will sure keep you two together.
“Let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.”1 John 3:18